Love Is All You Need?

Love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love.
There's nothing you can do that can't be done.
Nothing you can sing that can't be sung.
Nothing you can say but you can learn how to play the game
It's easy.
There's nothing you can make that can't be made.
No one you can save that can't be saved.
Nothing you can do but you can learn how to be you
in time - It's easy.

All you need is love, all you need is love, All you need is love, love, love is all you need. Love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love. All you need is love, all you need is love 

The Beatles were asked to come up with a song containing a simple message to be understood by all nationalities. "It was an inspired song and they really wanted to give the world a message," said Brian Epstein. "The nice thing about it is that it cannot be misinterpreted. It is a clear message saying that love is everything."[5] According to journalist Jade Wright, "Lennon was fascinated by the power of slogans to unite people and never afraid to create art out of propaganda. When asked in 1971 whether songs like "Give Peace a Chance" and "Power to the People" were propaganda songs, he answered: 'Sure. So was All You Need Is Love. I'm a revolutionary artist. My art is dedicated to change.' - Via Wikipedia

However when you take the phrase out of context, and simply believe that love is all you need in marriage, you're kidding yourself. I know I've only been married almost 2 years, but it doesn't mean I can't express my feelings about it. I feel everyone needs to learn their own mistakes, but it doesn't mean you can't learn from other people's either. I had always wanted to get married. It was all in my plan. When I was 13 that plan diminished after my parents divorced. It was a very hard time for me, especially being in a church who really frowns upon divorce. It was embarrassing for me going to church every Sunday, knowing people were talking about my family, and my parents. I do not blame my parents for this anymore, I was gravely hurt, but I never felt that pain of thinking I did something wrong. I knew they weren't happy, and I saw them argue. That hurt me the most. By now, I've come to terms with it, and feel it was really the only thing that could happen. Like I said, people have to learn from their mistakes. I'm sure both my parents, regret things in their choices sometimes. I know they're both at peace now, as I am. I didn't quit going to church, because I don't go because of the people, I go because of the gospel. The Lord loves me and doesn't gossip about me, and he's why I'm going. :)

This trial in my life really helped me see people, and situations differently. I was more cautious about who I spent my time with, and it helped me decide what kind of man I wanted to marry, and I wouldn't settle for anything less. That's why we have hard times! They may suck, but if you have the right attitude, and supportive people in your life, they can make them so much easier.

When John proposed to me, I was ecstatic, just overjoyed! However, during the engagement I was terrified. I had freezing cold feet. I was so scared that our marriage would end up like my parents'. I became my 13 yr. old self again, and I struggled with it throughout the first year of marriage. I knew John was perfect for me, but was I perfect for him? As we're making it through our second year, my feelings have changed. I no longer have that fear.

I see a lot of girls with guys who are just so wrong for them. I read recently about someone's boyfriend who wanted her more tan. I hear about guys who tell their gfs that they couldn't be with them if they got fat. Even though they should have a look in the mirror themselves..just sayin'! I think to myself, no wonder these girls become man haters. I consider myself blessed, and thankful for it each day, especially when I hear about this stuff. I've had a lot of wonderful guy friends in my life. So, I've had some great examples of men, who have shown me they're not all jerks. Albeit, there are a ton of jerks out there, and that goes for the girls too.

I'm blessed to have found and married such an incredible man. He thinks I'm the most beautiful woman in the world, no matter how crappy I feel, he thinks I look prettier without makeup. He respects me, he supports me in everything I do, he appreciates me, and uplifts me, and makes me want to be a better person. He can't wait to be a father someday, and I know he's going to be an amazing one. What's not to love about that??
So my question is, is love...really all you need for a happy, and successful marriage? I feel respect, appreciation, support, AND love, are the perfect ingredients. A little humor always helps too. :)